For the Mompreneur

Eloise Rickman 


  • Keke Hansard: Doula in England

  • Gratitude can diffuse anxiety.

  • Navigating rhythms as a working mom: create boundaries around work. For example, take your email off of your phone so you can’t check it all the time. Ask your partner for support where you need it, boundaries on social media

  • Working on your business vs. working in your business: Start with what immediately advances your business. Reprioritize the time your spending on work to make the most of it.

  • Simplicity in your days can create a sense of safety and a foundation that we can build off of in a healthier way.

  • Simplicity Parenting by Kim John Payne says “Meaning lies in repetition.”

  • Course: Rhythm in the home

Sleep Coaching Part 2, 0-3 months

With Liz Crowley

@littlesleepcoach on Instagram

  • Organize your days into 12 hour segments: 12 hours for day and 12 hours for evening.

  • When you start the evening cycle, keep them in their sleep environment and keep the room darker so they can adjust to knowing sleeping hasn’t in the evening when it’s darker.

  • 0-3 months is the 4th trimester and Liz does not recommend sleep training in the first 3 months. It’s a time of bonding so if they’re crying it’s recommended to pick them up.

  • In the first 3 months, there’s no strict schedule imposed.

  • Even in the first 3 months though you can lay them down when they’re tired to practice falling asleep in their sleep space without sleep props. (Even parents can be considered sleep props that they grow accustomed to needing in order to fall asleep, like my kid).

  • Take a few minutes to reflect and acknowledge why you make the decisions you do regarding sleep for baby.

  • A newborn doesn’t have a fully formed nervous system, so you want to have structure, but flexibility within the structure.

  • Consistency with the 12 hour segments, but not rigidity which often is accompanied by anxiety.

  • Lot’s of eye contact, lot’s of talking to newborn.

  • For a newborn, when you introduce sleep props, consider not using them all the time. You don’t want baby to depend on it.

  • After 3 months, you can start to implement schedules and routines to help them settle into more consistency.

  • It’s suggested to wait at least 2 weeks before introducing the pacifier.

  • If you swaddle your newborn, be sure to remove it once they start rolling. So really after 2 months, you want to transition out of swaddles so they can’t injure themselves, but double check with your pediatrician if you decide to swaddle so you can watch for when to transition baby away from the swaddle.

  • White noise machine can be soothing

  • Keep the crib totally empty to prevent suffocation.

  • Swaddles

  • Especially in the evening, try a diaper change before feeding to help baby adjust to a pause before eating at night, which can help them adjust to eventually go without feeding in the middle of the night when it’s age appropriate.

  • Amber night lights are better than blue light which can signal daylight. (Especially screens)

Minimalism with littles

Featuring Jenifer from Simply & Fiercely

@simplyfiercely on Instagram

Link to meal planning pin

Link to decluttering post

Link to getting out of debt post

Parenting intentionally and purposefully is only made possible with a simpler lifestyle because when there is a ton going on, mentally, physically, or spiritually, all those extras can take our attention off of what really matters to us. Namely, our children. 

Having a simpler lifestyle as a mother can really have a positive impact on your stress level by reducing the amount of cleaning required, among other things. 

Limit the amount of toys so that they can all be cleaned up within 15 minutes. 

Take a pause before purchases to evaluate if it falls in line with your value system. Check with yourself to see if its essential. 

Essentialism vs. Minimalism

Figure out what adds value to your life, and cultivate more of that. Then get rid of the rest.

The 1st step in simplifying, is getting some clarity within for what you want for your life. Have a vision that you can work towards. 

Book: “Getting things done” by David Allen 

Being busy or spending money can be a coping mechanism to escape from things that we don’t ant to address. It can be a way of searching for comfort that makes the problems worse in the end. Before making an impulsive purchase, ask “what am I avoiding right now?” .

The more self aware you are, the easier it will be to take out things that don’t matter. Without honesty you will return to habits that are not serving you. 

Journaling can be a tool for self reflection and to heighten self awareness. You can ask the question without condemning yourself, without the judgment. 

Journal prompts: 

Why do I have this stuff? 

Why am I so busy?

For the hard days, part 2

BE more still. 

BE more quiet. 

BE more slow. 

Living a life that is abundant and full requires intentionality. Choose to create space for reflection on what matters most so that you can live according to those values. 

Take time to be grateful. Choose to look for what is good and what is true when negativity is crouching at your door.

When there are hard feelings, or discomfort, the only way to heal is to give yourself time and space to feel what is uncomfortable. To feel sad, or angry, or afraid. Journaling can help to address and clarify what the feelings are. Awareness of what you are experiencing in the current moment can lead to empowerment as you can then decide how to respond instead of responding impulsively. 

Guided Meditation: 

Choose an affirmation. Today the on I’m offering. “I am strong enough to face the discomfort or pain.” 
Breath in “I am safe.”

Breath out “I choose strength.”
Relaxation from toes to crown of the head.

P.S. Apologies for any weird audio sounds that my software picked up from the outside sounds today:)

Sleep Coaching 101

Liz Crowley


  • Pediatric Sleep Consultant

  • We feel expected to be on top of all the things and to have it altogether. And this is not realistic.  No one has it all together. You are not alone girl.

  • Seeking community to deal with the loneliness of new motherhood is so important. 

  • Sleep coaching vs. sleep training: 

  • Sleep training is usually associated with the cry it out method

  • Sleep coaching implies steps taken before that method

  • There is a wide range of what may work for individuals

  • Options for sleep coaching around 3 months

  • Remove sleep props

  • If they cry, pick them up to comfort them

  • Start putting baby down awake

  • Be consistent with sleep routines

  • There’s 4 levels/stages of sleep based on their ages. 

  • After 3-4 months they typically become lighter sleepers. 

  • As they get older they need sleep even more for the growth hormone to be released. 

  • Sleep is directly related to capacity to learn some skills. 

  • Sleep is directly related to health and development. 

  • Sleep is as important as nutrition, and nutrition is as important as sleep. 

  • Every child is so different so there’s no one size fits all. So if you’re not getting the results you expected don’t be discouraged, because you’re figuring out what you’re kid needs in a new season. 

  • If you’re pregnant, consider delayed cord clamping which can prolong the deliverance of zinc to the body which helps with melatonin production which helps them sleep better. 

  • Zinc rich foods for little people especially: leafy greens, chickpeas, liver

  • If your kid hates meat it could be a zinc deficiency. Check with your pediatrician. 

  • Offer a variety of nutrient rich foods so they have options to get what they need. 

  • Remember to have grace on your little one who is figuring it out for the first time. 

  • Remember to have grace on yourself as you figure it out too. You’ve never been in this season, so it’s new and you’re doing the best you can. And that’s enough because the answers will come in time. Remove the judgment on yourself in the meantime as you navigate something new.

  • It will take time to get to know your kiddos temperament and personality. 

  • Sleep routines is key. 

Letters to my pregnant self

Hey girl, it really doesn’t matter what everyone else thinks

  • Trust your instincts as a mother when making choices for your kiddos

  • It’s ok if what works for other families doesn’t work for your family. 

  • When you make intentional choices you can sleep more peacefully because you really did your best. 

  • “When a child is born is a mother is born.”-unknown

Show Up and Look for the Blessings

  • Go through the dark tunnel and the light will be waiting for you. Don’t run from dealing with the hard stuff because there is a reward at the end. 

  • Practice presence. 

  • The knots are being massaged out of our clay so we can reach our full capacity as the most beautiful beings we were created to become. 

  • When it’s hard to see the blessings in the beginning, look for them and dwell on them. But don’t ignore the hard stuff because you heave to address the struggle. But dwell on the blessings. This can come through gratitude. 

Move forward in alignment with whats important to you instead of living from your wounds or fear. Check out our core values worksheet to figure out where you want your life focus to be. 

You can press reset at any time to move forward in a new direction. 

It’s ok to apologize to your little people when you make a mistake. 

I'm so over it.

LaToya is over not taking care of herself the way she wants to.

  • Alexys is over feeling left out. 

  • How do you move forward in a healthy way?

  • A mindset shift: “Take every thought captive”. Have helpful thoughts on hand, prepared ahead of time for when you have negative thoughts. You want to be able to replace depressing thought patterns with truth and thoughts that help you build the life you want. 

  • Positive thinking takes intentionality and preparation. 

  • Acceptance: There is freedom in accepting the season we are currently in and any limitations that may be as a result. 

  • Release expectations: There is freedom in letting of expectations that life will look a certain way. 

  • Gratitude is a practical way to create the life you want. 

I'm second guessing myself

Without representation we can feel alone or wrong. We’re here to say that good moms are moms who do what’s best for their families. Good moms can work outside of the home, from home, for their homes, and any other option that benefits your family. One of us works full time (Alexys), the other goes between working part time outside of the home sometimes, or not at all, or from the home (LaToya). 

  • Your story matters, and someone can relate to it. So please share it with us!

  • Take time to redefine what your identity means to you in this season. Who’s the Me, Myself beyond our roles. 

  • Books: Song of Myself, by Walt Whitman, Gift from the sea, by Anne Morrow Lindbergh, Little Leaders, by Vashti Harrison

  • Step into your own mama! The world wants to be inspired by you. Not who you think you’re supposed to be, but who you really are. 

To plan or not to plan a birthday

Even if your kids don’t remember their first birthday party, if it matters to you that you will remember it, you don’t have to toss out the opportunity. 

  • Set yourself up for what will decrease your stress level. 

  • Determine your core values and why you’re having a party. What’s your intention for the event and align the to-do’s with that. 

  • Ask for help! It’s ok to have support and help. 

  • Know yourself and give yourself an adequate amount of time based on who you are. 

  • Accept what works for your family and prioritize that over what other people do.

  • You don’t have to do anything! Whatever works for your family:)

The Birthday Party Checklist if you need one:

  • Theme

  • Location

  • Food

  • Drinks

  • Decor

  • Party Favors 

Winter Series Part 3: All things PPD with Sarah Lavonne

Sarah Lavonne 

  • Find Sarah at Bundle Birth, and check out her YouTube channel!

  • Perenatal mood and anxiety disorders 

  • Postpartum is different than postpartum depression. Postpartum is the first 6 weeks after you have a baby. Postpartum depression is depression in the postpartum period that lasts after the first 2 weeks for however long. 

  • Baby Blues is feeling down and overwhelmed in the first 2 weeks and then adjusting in a way that doesn’t feel like you’re incapacitated. This is so typical and even to be expected in a lot of scenarios. 

  • Postpartum psychosis is very rare and not a result of postpartum depression. 

  • Signs of PPD: after the first 2 weeks there is a lot of tearfulness, insomnia, hopeless about the future, doing daily life feels really difficult, being afraid of the baby, walking away from a crying baby out of overwhelm. 

  • It’s not your fault. It’s no one’s fault. It’s good to talk about what you’re feeling. And if working with a doctor while being medicated works for you, that’s awesome. 

  • Mom-Shaming doesn’t fix anything. 

  • When you’re tempted to shame another mom, acknowledge that you are insecure and then deal with your insecurity instead of looking down on another mom. 

  • Create your “bubble of peace” by steering clear of influences that will harm your mental health. 

  • Give disclaimers before giving people advice or suggestions. 

  • You are your baby’s mom and you have instincts. You can follow your intuition and educate yourself even if your friends disagree with the outcome. 

  • Give yourself the grace to recognize that you are doing your best to take care of your baby. The neighbors opinion does not matter when you are doing what’s best for your family. 

  • Coping with Postpartum depression: start with awareness of your past and what you’re struggling with currently.

  • Identify your symptoms and then reach out to someone to get help making a plan. Recognize the issue and then be proactive to call on support. 

  • It’s ok to ask for help. It really is, even though it may not FEEL like it’s ok, It IS.  

  • Prioritize self care. For real. This will help you manage depressive symptoms. 

  • Identify what feeds your soul. And make time for it in any capacity that is manageable. 

  • Prioritize your nutrition. 

  • Have conversations with your partner about what you need. 

  • Talk to someone before and after giving birth about how you feel about the transition you’re going through. 

  • Doing things alone is always harder. 

  • Carbs and sugar are related to anxiety. 

  • Nutrition matters. 

  • Vulnerability book by Brene Brown 

  • Vulnerability often breeds more vulnerability, and it deflates shame. But be vulnerable with healthy and loving women who you feel safe around. 

  • Take of yourself, Lean on your support, and take advantage of clinical resources. 

  • There are perenatal psychologists that specialize in dealing with issues around pregnancy, birth, and the postpartum period. 

  • la leche league

Winter Series Part 2-Interview with Meagan Wilson from Whole Family Rhythms

SN Winter Series Part 2 with Meagan Wilson

  • This month’s giveaway: Beautiful mommy and me beanies by Emily tabor at

  • Whole Family Rhythms with Meagan Wilson, Instagram: wholefamilyrhythms, click HERE for her website!

  • A Special link for TNMS mamas HERE!!

  • Your first is always your first, so, basically they’re always the guinea pig because they take you through each new season for the first time.

  • Why did Meagan choose Waldorf as an educational philosophy? She was drawn to how much it emphasizes learning through play. It’s also developmentally appropriate, so they learn based on where they are in that season of their life. 

  • Winter Play for early childhood (birth to age 7): lot’s of free self directed play. Free play is the exhale, and directed activity by an adult is the inhale. Children need both. When you’re indoors for the winter try creative play like baking and art. Link to meal planner pre-sell for ideas for recipes to do with your kiddos. Lot’s of sensory play too! Link to sensory bins in the freebies.

  • You can also bundle up your littles and take them on shorter nature walks when weather permits, even when it’s still a bit cold and snowy. 

  • In this season don’t forget the caregivers needs as well! 

  • Build rhythms and routines in line with your values while they’re young. 

  • Pick one day a week to go explore nature outside of your neighborhood. 

  • Being outside benefits everyone, children and care givers alike. 

  • Children learn through imitation, be worthy of imitation. 

  • Let your children see you as a person who is more than a mom. 

  • Keep built in moments everyday where you are bonding with your children and making memories. It relieves you of the pressure to spend every waking moment connecting with them. 

  • The big S word: Screen-time

  • Why limit screen time? There are tons of statistics that have shown that kids thrive more at a young age with less screen time. But most importantly, watch your children and see if there is a visible difference in them when they are watching vs. when they are not watching. 

  • Ask yourself why you turn on the screen and be intentional about it. If you allow it consider having it on at the same time for a limited time every day. This will create predictability for the family and it won’t be a crutch but an integrated part of the day instead. 

  • Educate yourself on what you allow your kids to watch, especially as they get older. 

  • Instead of screen time in the afternoon when you are exhausted, pull out sensory play. (Homemade play-dough, dried beans with cups and spoons, sensory bins)

  • Sparkle Stories app for kids 3-4 years old: Audio stories as an alternative to screen time for older littles. 


Download our free Time blocking worksheet

LaToya’s time blocking rhythms in this season

Try a few things to see how much flexibility you and your family needs. You want a life that serves everyone in your family, not just the kids.

Book: Mindful Motherhood

Align your life, your time, with your core values. 

What kind of childhood do you want to give your kids

Check out the Wild and Free site!

Design your days based on what you want to give your kids in their most formative years. 

Purposeful Work: tasks that include your walkers in building a functional family and home. Check out the little oak learning curriculum for ideas for purposeful work. 

Praising the process vs. praising behaviors: teaching our children that there value doesn’t come from what they do while also still acknowledging and appreciating what they do. 

Create shared experiences that are also really fun and not just productive. 

Take a day off every week where you’re doing things that refresh and restore you and your family. 

Try themed weeks: one week you can do the zoo; take out library books for the week that relate to the zoo, take a trip to the zoo, make a zoo habitat sensory box. 

For our sensory box ideas go HERE!

Teach through play!

Give yourself so much GRACE in whatever season you are in. There is no standard other than love your kid the best you can! You are the best and perfect mother for your kid. 

Socialize your little one. Get together with other kids and moms. Adjust your expectations though. For example, sharing is developmentally tough for toddlers. 

Coffee and Care if you’re in LA! 

Hibernation and Hygge

Winter is a SLOW season. 

  • It’s important to flow with the season you’re in because your physical environment effects you. So when it’s cold, nature is in a state of rest and hibernation. If we resist nature, we do not get to function optimally. We don’t get to thrive.

  • Like the trees, we want to focus on using our energy in a way that most benefits us. We need to shed leaves that take away from our core life in the winter. Use the opportunity to shed what isn’t currently serving you. 

  • How can YOU function optimally this winter?

  • Move inward. Not only physically, but emotionally and mentally as well. 

  • Looking for activities to do with littles? Check out the Little Oak learning Curriculum for the winter. 

  • “Hibernation: A state of inactivity” -Wikipedia

  • Why do you resist what the winter is calling you to do? Why do you resist what you’re body is communicating to you?

  • Create rhythms and routines that allow you to move through this winter without rushing. 

  • Benefits of rest: boosts your immune system, helps your memory, restores and energizes, stimulate creativity, good for mental health, improves concentration, improves productivity (Michael Hyatt talks about the benefits of napping), can boost happiness.

  • Ideas for resting indoors: long showers, reading, yoga and meditation, using essential oils, doing art projects, watching a favorite movie, lighting candles or using an essential oil diffuser. 

  • What is hygge? It’s a danish guide to happy living. It’s creating an experience of coziness,  intimacy, pleasure, and togetherness. 

  • We spend so much time indoors in the winter it’s important to create a space you love to be in. 

  • Choose to enjoy where you are. 

  • If you use lot’s of candles open your windows regularly to air out the smoke. 

  • DoTerra diffuser is a lovely alternative to candles. 

  • Invite people into your home regularly to make those important social connections. Keep it manageable my friend. There is no pressure to have parties. Just connect. 

  • Drink warm beverages for comfort. Surround yourself with comforting things benefit you. 

  • Book: The Magic of tidying up by Marie Kondo

  • Surround yourself with things that spark joy. And it doesn’t have to be a lot of stuff. 

  • Book: Little book of Hygge by Meik Wiking

How's my peace?

Book: Nourishing traditions

  • God created food to nourish us and it can heal. If you abuse it can hurt, but if used mindfully it can heal. 

  • Homesteading with littles: start with ONE thing. Give yourself permission to embark slowly. Maybe try a garden, or cloth diapers, button both at the same time. 

  • If possible, hire someone for 3 hours a week to babysit so you can have alone time to decompress. 

  • Starting to simplify: go through your stuff intentionally and get rid of what you don’t love, and not you’re not using. 

  • Give excess children’s clothing to a friend and use it as an excuse to have them over for coffee and build your friendship:)

  • Life is not linear, its circular. So no matter where you are, you’re not going backwards or forwards, you are always moving in a direction where healing is available, God is available. 

  • Book: Grace Calls by Robin Weidner

  • Honesty with self, and grace on self are ways to simplify the internal life which leaks into the external life. 

  • Isaiah 32:17 Check your peace barometer to see if you need to scale back. If you’re living in anxiety, you may have taken on too much. 

  • Book: The read aloud family by: Sarah Mackenzie 

  • Bring wonder to their childhood and they will give I to you as well. 

  • We want our kids to learn how to fail beautifully, not to feel like they have to be perfect. 

Raising Individuals from the beginning

  • Parenting from a place of “what does my child need” not “what do I want”. Each child needs specific parenting. 

  • Leave room for your child to become their own person by changing your expectations of who they will or should be. 

  • “When you know better you do better.” -Maya Angelou

  • It’s ok to grieve the loss of what you thought would be.

  • Apologizing to your kids can help their hearts heal as you figure it out along the way. 

  • There is no perfect mama, and no perfect child. 

  • How much of this is mama’s issues, and how much is direct related to your child?

  • Acknowledging that your trauma interrupts parenting at times can be a liberating starting point. 

  • Every parent makes mistakes and hurts their kids. But the severity of the mistakes we make as mamas can be reduced by doing your own work and healing. 

  • No mama is able to meet all of her child’s spiritual, emotional, and physical needs. We were not created to be their gods, but to lead them to God. 

  • Clinical help can be very powerful in your healing. 

  • Healing can lead to freedom. It takes work, but it’s worth it. 

  • Tying heart strings is about creating connections between mamas heart and the child’s heart. 

  • We aren’t here to control our kids, and it’s ok to teach them that they have choices. Those choices may come with consequences, but the parents, and the children benefit from understanding that children are individuals. They have free will just like adults do. 

  • Whatever happened to me is not happening to them right now. We don’t have to project our fears onto our kids because we can make different parenting choices than our parents did when it comes to harmful choices.

They're watching you

Burn down the lies you’ve believed that have stunted your growth. And make new agreements. For example, “I am not perfect, but I can do …really well.” Instead of saying “I can’t do this”, say “I can’t do this right now”. We start by changing how you think. 

  • Why do you treat other people better than yourself? We can press restart today by choosing to think differently about ourselves in the moment. Decide it’s not ok to be abusive to yourself. It takes time to break patterns and build new euro pathways, BUT IT”S POSSIBLE.

  • Choose a truth to combat the lie you hear the most. When the negative thought about yourself comes, think or say your truth to combat it. 

  • Multi-tasking doesn’t make you a good mom. Give yourself permission to slow downed do one thing at a time if that’s needed at a time. 

  • Start with 5-10 minutes of rejuvenate time when the baby takes a nap. 

  • What expectation can you let go of?

  • Comparison is a thief of joy.

  • Peace is important. You can teach your kids peace by setting an example of what peace can look like. 

  • Who am I, how do I operate? Who are they and how can we operate together?

  • Where does your value come from? 

  • Stillness shows you that being present is enough. 

  • Allow god to build you up in a season of rest if that’s what He’s calling you to. 

  • “God doesn’t want to be forced into stillness, He wants you to choose it because He is enough.”

  • Move in gratitude and ease, not in angst. 

  • Embrace you weaknesses in motherhood. There is freedom in owning it. And then look to God in his kindness and grace to accept you no matter no what. 

  • “You only know as much as you know.”

  • Let your children see you learn how to do life with them. Show them your humility. Apologize a lot. 

  • “Perfection is a lie that produces more lies.”

  • What does it mean to you for God to be enough.

  • Mantra: “Everything always works out for me.” That doesn’t mean everything will always work out how you want it to, or in a way that’s comfortable. It means it will work out in a way where God can bring something good even out of the hardest situation.

Now and laters

Below I’m posting my rhythms and routines for November. I don’t usually write down times because I want to keep it fluid and flexible. But the benefit of rhythms is that even there isn’t always set timing, there is predictability in the day because we know what follows what. That predictability gives me an acorn of peace. -LaToya:)


Pack everything to get dressed and for breakfast to go

Drop off dada

Nature walk and breakfast out

Snack/diaper change

Errands, appointments


Nap/house to do list/TNMS meeting 15 minutes

Pick up dada

Free play/Prep dinner/clean house


Family time

Bedtime routine: bath, pjs, teeth, books/songs, bottle 

Tuesdays and Thursdays 

Breakfast and books

Get ready: teeth, dressed

Nature walk or park

Snack/diaper change

Blanket time



Free play/Prep dinner/clean house


Family time

Bedtime routine: bath, pjs, teeth, books/songs, bottle 


Breakfast and books

Get ready: teeth, dressed


Snack/diaper change

Blanket time



Free play/Prep dinner/clean house


Family time

Bedtime routine: bath, pjs, teeth, books/songs, bottle 


Books and breakfast

Get ready: teeth, dressed


Art project

Snacks/diaper changes

Blanket time

Take a walk @ 11a for Mayas nap

12p lunch and books


1p nap/work/creative project

4p dinner prep and clean

**Blanket time includes a variation of: books, songs, finger puppets, art

The Myth of Balance

The Myth of Balance

  • Forgive the spotty audio, we were so close to the mic so we could talk quietly and avoid waking my napping child. 

  • Books: “Gift from the sea” by Anne Morrow Lindbergh, “Grace not perfection” by Emily Ley

  • You do not have to “balance” it at all at the same time. You are enough. Whatever you’re doing is enough, because it’s your best. There is grace to cover the rest. 

  • We have many distractions, but we aim “to remain whole” in spite of the fact that we can’t do it all at once. What does it mean to you to remain whole in the midst of many things/people pulling you in different directions? 

  • Where does the expectation to do it all come from for you?

  • When you drop some of the balls you’re juggling, YOU ARE STILL GOOD ENOUGH. You bear the image of the Creator. And there is grace. 

  • Do you deflect, or internalize?

  • Change the wording. You didn’t fail. You had a human moment, and you can press restart. 

  • You’re more than a mom and it’s ok to have your feelings. Find a healthy way to process your feelings. (journaling, therapy, self-care, etc.) 

  • If you need a good friend, reach out to us! We are here for you girl! Email us at