Raising Individuals from the beginning


  • Parenting from a place of “what does my child need” not “what do I want”. Each child needs specific parenting. 

  • Leave room for your child to become their own person by changing your expectations of who they will or should be. 

  • “When you know better you do better.” -Maya Angelou

  • It’s ok to grieve the loss of what you thought would be.

  • Apologizing to your kids can help their hearts heal as you figure it out along the way. 

  • There is no perfect mama, and no perfect child. 

  • How much of this is mama’s issues, and how much is direct related to your child?

  • Acknowledging that your trauma interrupts parenting at times can be a liberating starting point. 

  • Every parent makes mistakes and hurts their kids. But the severity of the mistakes we make as mamas can be reduced by doing your own work and healing. 

  • No mama is able to meet all of her child’s spiritual, emotional, and physical needs. We were not created to be their gods, but to lead them to God. 

  • Clinical help can be very powerful in your healing. 

  • Healing can lead to freedom. It takes work, but it’s worth it. 

  • Tying heart strings is about creating connections between mamas heart and the child’s heart. 

  • We aren’t here to control our kids, and it’s ok to teach them that they have choices. Those choices may come with consequences, but the parents, and the children benefit from understanding that children are individuals. They have free will just like adults do. 

  • Whatever happened to me is not happening to them right now. We don’t have to project our fears onto our kids because we can make different parenting choices than our parents did when it comes to harmful choices.